“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” – Thomas Jefferson
Let the that sink in for a second. Everything we do, or don’t do, in life depends on our mental attitude. Sure, other circumstances can get in the way, but more or less, we have control over our lives and our thoughts literally become our reality. Being mentally strong is not easy, but luckily, it can be learned with practice and dedication.
“It’s hard to be mentally strong, especially when you feel stuck,” says Dr. Travis Bradberry, but it all comes down to changing your attitude and your beliefs about life. Some of us have been through so many trials and tribulations that we’ve had no choice but to become stronger as a result. With that said, we’re going to go over some common habits and behaviors of the mentally strong among us.
(Note: Before we get into this article, we in no way are trying to understate or discredit the struggles of those with mental illnesses. We know that a mental disorder is very difficult to manage, so keep this in mind as you read the article.)
Mentally strong people try not to complain about their situation. Instead, they assess the problems and focus on solutions. They know that dwelling on problems will not make their situation any better; in fact, it usually magnifies the problems until they’re blown way out of proportion. Mentally tough people know that the only constant in life is change, so they embrace that. Even if the changes are not necessarily positive ones, they go with the flow and don’t resist what life throws at them.
Basically, they change what they can and forget about what they can’t. Complaining about what they can’t change only creates chaos, and they steer clear of that type of thinking.
Mentally tough people don’t blame others for their misfortunes or expect someone else to come and save them. While they might have a support system when things get really tough, they don’t just sit around and wait for someone else to fix their life. They take charge and make the necessary changes so that their life feels good from the inside out.
They don’t procrastinate on what needs to get done in order for them to find fulfillment in their lives. They take responsibility for themselves and their lives and take action to create the life they desire.
Mentally strong people know that life doesn’t come with an instruction manual; they have to write it themselves. With that said, creating a life you love doesn’t come easily. You’ll face many obstacles, but in doing so, you’ll have a deeper appreciation for your life when you overcome them. They learn to take the good with the bad and don’t let life rain on their parade. Where others see a roadblock, they see a detour.
Anything that doesn’t enhance their life must go. Mentally strong people know that creating your best self and your ideal life can only happen when you let go of things that no longer serve your best interests. Whether those bad habits are toxic relationships, drugs or alcohol, eating the wrong foods, or something else, mentally tough people have learned to distance themselves from these temptations. They might indulge every once in a while, but they get right back on track and follow habits that add value to their lives.
This means saying “no” when something doesn’t feel right to them. They exert boundaries so that they maintain integrity and don’t let others walk all over them. If they can’t fit something into their schedule, they have no problem letting someone know that. They have respect for themselves and don’t allow others to treat them like a doormat. Mentally strong people also don’t mind standing alone in life if it means standing up for what they believe in.
Mental toughness doesn’t happen overnight, but rather, is the result of habits practiced daily. Mentally strong people simply set boundaries, have respect for themselves, and don’t expect others to take the reigns in their life. They know that building a life they love is entirely up to them, so they rely on only themselves to create something out of nothing. This might seem overwhelming to some, but to a mentally strong person, it’s an opportunity to test their skills and develop a stronger relationship with themselves.
* a repost from powerofpostivity.com